What if you feel you cannot cope?
According to Mind (the National Association for Mental Health), you are more likely to have a difficult grieving process if:
- You are on your own and have no support from your community, family, or friends
- You have unresolved issues with the person who died
- The death was caused by a particularly difficult event such as a national disaster or an unsolved murder
- The person goes missing or it isn’t clear exactly what happened
- You are unable to attend the funeral or there isn’t one.
Other circumstances around the death can lead to a difficult grieving process, including:
- A sudden or unexpected death
- The death of a parent when you are a child or adolescent.
- Miscarriage or the death of a baby
- Death due to suicide
- The death of a co-habiting partner, same-sex partner or partner from an extramarital relationship
- Deaths where the bereaved may be responsible
- Situations where a post-mortem or an inquest is required
- Multiple deaths at the same time (i.e. an accident)
- The death of an absent or estranged parent or sibling.
Getting help from your GP
About bereavement counselling
What the counsellor will commit to:
To provide confidentiality
Confidentiality is central to our work and your bereavement counsellor is not allowed, under professional codes of ethics to discuss you with anyone, with the following exceptions:
- All counsellors are obliged to attend monthly supervision meetings in small groups when the work they are doing with you is discussed. Your identity is protected throughout. Supervision sessions are an ethical and necessary undertaking and are to ensure that you are being properly looked after.
- In accordance with Bereft’s Good Practice policy, your counsellor may be obliged to contact your GP or another professional if for any reason she/he feels concerned that you are at risk of harming yourself or another. The counsellor will always try to enlist your consent before doing so. On exceptional occasions, contacting the GP may have to be done without your consent. In either case, this would only be done after the counsellor has discussed the situation with their supervisor and/or Bereft’s Manager.
Help you to help yourself
Bereavement counselling is not advice-giving or about making judgements. It is about supporting you and helping you adjust to the emotional changes following your bereavement.
Bereavement counselling is a time for you to explore your feelings following your bereavement in a safe environment.